Privacy policy

What I collect

Your login

Your email address, for login codes and emails. If you choose “Continue with Google”, Google also shares your name and profile picture, but I only use your email.

Your Vibe Card

Your name, birthday (shown as your age), city, what you’re looking for, work field, education, marital status, whether you want kids, veg or non-veg, a bio (Didi’s, or your own words), and your fun answers, like favourite food, music and green flag.

Matching answers

Your gender, who you want to meet, the age range you want, whether you drink, and what you want in a partner.

Private answers, if you choose to give them

Religion, caste, gotra and visa status. You can skip any of them.

Photos and a selfie

Up to three photos, a blurred copy I make of each one, your choice of whether people see them clearly or blurred until you match, and one selfie so I can check you’re real. I delete the selfie as soon as I’ve verified you.

What you do here

Who you send a vibe check or skip, your matches and chats, contacts you swap, and anyone you block or report.

How you found me, and when you visit

Where you first arrived from (for example a TikTok or Instagram link), saved once with your Vibe Card, and which days you open your member pages. I only ever look at these as totals, to see how many people use Lami Didi and which places bring them.

Chautari posts

What you write on the conversation board, and whether you chose to post as Anonymous. Anonymous hides your nickname from other people, not from me.

Ask Lami Didi questions

Only the words you type. No name or email is attached, so I can’t tell who asked. If you’re logged in and tick “Email me Didi’s answer”, your account is kept with the question (never shown to me) so I can email my answer to your login email; it’s removed once the answer is sent.

The quiz and the Jodi Meter run in your browser. I don’t save your answers to them.

Who sees what

People you’re shown to

Your name, age, city, what you’re looking for, the rest of your card, and your photos: clear, or blurred if you chose that. Never your email, private answers, whether you drink, or your selfie.

Your matches

Your clear photos and your chat. Your contact details only if you both tap “Swap contacts”.

Me, Lami Didi

Your Vibe Card, photos and selfie, so I can check you’re real, plus any reports. My admin tools never show private answers or chats.

Nobody

Your private answers. Only the matching uses them, on the server, and they’re never shown to anyone.

Anyone on the internet

The chautari and Didi’s League. Anything you post on the chautari is public and can show up in Google, under your name unless you tick “Post as Anonymous”, and you can delete your own posts any time. The league and VIP pages show your challenge answer, your first name and your points to anyone, so keep the answer light. Women Adda is the exception: only verified women can read it, and it never shows up in Google.

How I use it

• Matching: your answers, dealbreakers and private answers decide who you see and who sees you.
• Verification: I compare your selfie with your photos to check you’re a real person.
• Emails: login codes, plus “you’re verified”, “someone sent you a vibe check”, a selfie reminder, and one email about new matches, messages and Didi’s question when something is waiting for you. You can turn off vibe check emails, and match and message emails, in Me → Settings.
• Safety: reports and blocks help me remove anyone who makes others feel unsafe.

I don’t sell your data, I don’t show ads, and I don’t use tracking or analytics tools.

Services that help me run the site

These companies store or send your data for me, only to provide their service:

• Supabase: stores your account, answers, photos, selfie (until you’re verified) and chats, and handles logins. All of it is stored in Sydney, Australia.
• Hostinger: runs the website, and keeps resized copies of your photos (never your selfie) so pages load quickly.
• Brevo: sends login codes, and other emails on days Resend’s daily limit is reached.
• Resend: sends all other emails.
• Google: only if you choose “Continue with Google”.

Some of them are based overseas, including in the US and Europe, so your data may be handled outside Australia and Nepal.

Cookies and your browser

Login cookies keep you logged in. Your browser also remembers your vibe check answers for up to an hour, so you don’t lose them before saving, that I just sent you a code, for 15 minutes, and where you first arrived from, so I can count which links bring people in. There are no advertising or tracking cookies.

How long I keep it

• Your account and everything in it: until you delete it.
• Your selfie: until I’ve checked it. Once you’re verified, it’s deleted.
• Chautari posts: until you delete the post, or your account.
• Which days you visited: 180 days.
• Who was shown to whom each day: 10 days.
• Reports you made: if you delete your account, they stay without your name, so I can keep everyone safe.
• If I close your account: a scrambled fingerprint of your email, never the email itself, so the same email can’t join again, even after the account is deleted.
• Technical logs, like IP addresses: the services above keep these for a short time, for security.

Deleting your account

Go to Me → Settings and tap “Delete my account”. Your card, private answers, photos, selfie, matches and chats are deleted straight away. Can’t log in? Email info@lamididi.com from the address you signed up with, and I’ll delete it for you.

Your choices

• When you save a new Vibe Card I ask you to say yes to me using your answers to match you, and I keep a note of when you did. To take a yes back, delete your account in Me → Settings.
• Change your answers any time by redoing your vibe check.
• Change or remove photos in Me → Photos (your card always keeps one).
• Turn off vibe check and match emails in Me → Settings.
• Email me for a copy of your data, or to fix anything I got wrong.

Not happy with how I’ve handled your data? Email me first. In Australia, you can also complain to the Office of the Australian Information Commissioner at oaic.gov.au.

18+ only

Lami Didi is only for people aged 18 and over. Accounts belonging to anyone younger are closed.

Changes to this policy

If I change this policy, I’ll update the date at the top. For big changes, I’ll also let members know on the site.